There are times you need to vent. It might be something so trivial but the way each person deals with their inner feelings are different.
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Undoubtedly there is healing in being heard. However we might make poor choices in whom we vent to.
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Here is a list of poor listeners you may have come across.
🗯 The Judge- Passes judgement and a doomed life sentence over a fleeting emotion you may have vented about.
🗯The Prophet- Concludes that your life sucks because you may have sinned at some point in the face of God. Even if you pass God’s Mercy you cannot pass theirs.
🗯The Competitor- Each time you vent, they vent better. They compete in venting until they prove their problems are far greater than yours.
🗯 The Gratitude Journal- The person who asks you to keep counting your blessings and look at those below you. It is true that you indeed have to count blessings however that does not stop your heart or make your feelings unreal.
🗯The Condemn Agent- Your feelings are condemned and belittled until you regret every bit of opening up to this individual.
🗯The Unempathetic Humorist- Laughs at your issues and takes the opportunity to have a dig at you.
Every person feels sad, annoyed or frustrated at some point. At times you need to vent or speak these out as there is healing in being listened to. It does not mean you want the person listening to you to offer a solution or take your problems away.
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You purely need an empathetic ear that will hear you out.
Depression is on the increase simply because we have more judgemental listeners than empathetic ones.The least you can do for a person is to give a listening ear else spare your judgement. Choose kindness above everything!
Zasha's Thoughts 